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Sometimes I wan't to hit my head against the wall

With all these outside stresses, how do I handle it?

Think about all that has happened in the world in the past few years: 9/11 and thousands losing their lives, terrorists who live and breathe to take away freedom, hurricanes that have completely taken away the foundation of several states, mud slides that have wiped away houses, floods that have killed and ruined, earthquakes that have swallowed up entire cities, riots and gunmen who have terrorized people, the steady unemployment rate and the war that haunts us every day and the list goes on. Hundreds of thousands of people have been uprooted and have been forced to move elsewhere to get on with their lives, and millions are dealing with a more stressful world. And then this, something so unnerving and unfathomable that it turns our world upside down. Children and their teachers, the most innocent being taken away too young, too soon and for no good reason! It’s hard to get pass this and move on.  It shakes you to your core, but it can be done. It must be done.

Here is what to expect: 
I’ve guessed it can take up to about 3 months for the numbness to really
wear off and for the stress to hit. It creeps up on you as a sense of
overwhelm, and then the nerves start taking over and then POW. Full blown
TENSION. When the people in Oklahoma were on TV counseling the residents of NYC after 9/11 they said that they weren’t worried about them immediately following, but up to a year later.  The Christmas immediately following 9/11 was the worst one in history for so many. People admitted that being with family that holiday season was full of anger, fights and lose tempers. Everyone seemed happy to go back to their own nest after the holidays.

The stress hits the families hard. The parents fight, and the kids suffer. The kids bring it to school and it affects others. Since we are all connected somehow, it’s hitting everyone in some capacity. In the martial arts, we expect the best and prepare for the worst. A good defense is a proper offense. First of all, recognize that everyone is going to go through their own personal trauma. Explain it to everyone that has gone through something difficult that it IS going to happen. Warn them to not be caught off guard.

Next, seek and encourage those who have gone through a change to seek counsel. If it’s from a friend, a professional, a priest or rabbi, whomever, get HELP. It helps to talk about what has happened. When a person can say the words out loud, hope can be established. The worst thing is to try to handle the stress and pressure internally. THIS is how people snap! They let the stress build up and then they POP. It’s natural. Think of a balloon. It can only handle so much air until it breaks. People are the same. Hard exercise should be a part of your every day. Getting out the aggression by running, walking, lifting weights or punching a bag is a very therapeutic thing to do.

And most importantly, spiritual support is the most important. We know that God understands our fears, our hurts and our pains. When it’s too much for us to handle, reach the scriptures that can give so much comfort, then give it over to God. Then release it and have the faith that He’s working.  He can give us ideas that can help solve our issues. He can bring people into our path that can help us with our needs and even think for us when our brains seem to be frozen. 
 
Our world is at a boiling pot right now. People’s relationships and lives are in danger of dealing with too much.  It’s time to reach out to others if you’re
blessed with comfort and peace right now.

All you have to do is ask your neighbors, “how are you doing?”  If you do that to the people you see, you’ll find people who are in need. Then God can begin a good work through you.

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